tulisan ini dibuat seorang kakak kelas saya yang sangat luar biasa. saya ambil dari personal blognya. saya belum bisa menulis ini, tapi ini apa ya.. ah, menyejukkan.
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Dear Mirza,
Soon,
on July 2004, you will move to London and start a new life. This will be a hard
thing for you to cope. So I am writing this letter to you from the future
hoping that it will help you in getting through this transitional phase. I hope
that you read this carefully and act upon this writing accordingly.
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My
dear Mirza, at some points in your life, people will leave you. At some other
points in your life, you will leave people. Either way, during these points in
your life, you will feel very lonely. You know, that feeling that you're facing
this world and all of its evil and problems on your own without friends to
share your worries and stories, help your problems, or laugh at your jokes. You
know, lonely.
But
don't worry. From my experience, I know that it will pass. And will,
eventually, come again. It is a cycle that you will feel now and again. In my
(or should I say our) case, the cycle time is about four or five years. So I've
grown quite used to it. But still, it strikes me (well, loneliness is not the
best feeling in the world).
The
frequencies of me facing this problem necessitates me to devise a way to cope
with these time of my life (or in psychoanalytic diction, create a form of
defence for the Ego to face reality without it experiencing much disturbance,
you will learn about this later). Perhaps, if I share it here, it will be much
use to you right now.
My
advice is simply (well like all good advice, simple to say but not that simple
in reality) to forget what you had, cherish
what you have, and embrace what you will have.
Now,
I know that you will disagree with all of my statement above.
You
will disagree with the first point, "forget
what you had". I know you will come up with the question "How
can you forget those fond memories that you have with those dear friends?"
to deny it. Well, my answer is this: whatever you had or experienced in the
past, in the end, had past. Wallowing yourself in memories and "what had
happened" does not help you to cope with the life you're about to live.
And, I'm saying this from experience, you will eventually forget. You will
eventually forget about people and people will also forget about you. From
experience I know that the thought that people will remember people forever and
ever is nothing but an illusion. And I know, if you're reading this at the
initial phase of your transition, you will, out of sentimentality, disagree
with me strongly. But, later - perhaps when you don't even remember ever
reading this - you'll see the truth in my statements.
You
will also disagree with my second point, "cherish
what you have". Again, I know you will deny it with the question
"What is there to cherish? I'm not enjoying anything at the moment!"
To you, my answer is this: love every seconds of your life however bad yours
is. Because whatever you have right now, be it heaven or hell, is the only
thing you have right now. You don't have anything that you don't have right
now. All you have is now. So cherish it. From observation I know this to be
true, "Happiness comes to people who cherish". So cherish, and I
guarantee you'll be happy.
Lastly,
you will also disagree with my last point, "embrace
what you will have". The question that you use to deny my point
this time is, "How can I embrace my currently unknown future?" My
answer is this: Life will not disappoint you. Provided that one condition is
fulfilled. Life will not disappoint you if, and only if, you accept whatever
life gives to you. Now I know that from your point of view right now the future
looks dark and full of unknowns and uncertainties. It is a very scary view
indeed. But soon, and little by little, life will shine onto the darkness and
reveal some amazing things, and also some awful things. My advice to you is to
accept them all. Take and appreciate the amazing things. With the awful things
that life gives you, also take them and learn from them. This, my dear Mirza,
is the process of growing up. If you refuse some things, you will lose some of
life treasures and, more importantly, lose some of life lessons. From
experience, I've learned that accepting everything that life gives is a way to
get a fuller life. So just accept everything, and life will not disappoint you.
***
My
dear Mirza, this is all the advice I can give to you right now. What you are
feeling right now is temporary, like all phases of life are. Just face it as
best as you can. I hope, in fact I know, that you'll be alright. But at the
same time also not alright. Mais, c'est la vie
(I know you don't understand French right now so look it up. This phrase could
be one of your life motto later).
Live well Mirza.
Best Regards,
Your Future Self.
*PS: You might want
to keep this letter as you will need it again in 8 years – at the end of your
college life. When you reach 2013, tell your future self that this letter is
still valid and that he doesn't have to worry
about a thing. Thanks.
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